Vol. 9, Self-Defense
Prepare/Impact Self Defense Training Center New York, NY Eight years ago, while studying in the Dominican Republic, I was assaulted at gunpoint. This came at the tail end of a trip that was marred by...
View ArticleNavigating to No
Have you ever given any thought to how you get or give sexual consent? Unless two people walk into a bedroom knowing that they want to have sex, there has to be a point when the question (are we going...
View ArticleA Man’s Response to “Navigating to No”
I got a lot of responses to Navigating to No. There was an avalanche of messages from women telling me their rape and violation stories. The women were Ph.D.s or stay-at-home moms, college students or...
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As a girl, I was put on notice that the world demanded my acquiescence. At 13-, 14-, and 15-years old, my growing hips, legs, and breasts drew stares, leers, and ooh baby’s. I’d cross the street to...
View Article“There’s No Racism Here?” A Black Woman in the Dominican Republic
When I first returned home from studying abroad, everyone wanted to know, “How was the Dominican Republic?” I was reluctant to respond. Masking the truth behind “fine’s” and “good’s,” I skirted my real...
View ArticleWhen Conception Equals Confusion: The Battle Between Mothers and Would-Be...
It happens in silence. A man—young, tall, hooded—sits in a waiting room. All the chairs are taken except the one diagonally across from him. A woman comes in carrying a child. She sits in the only seat...
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